As the Elisha Smith case has garnered a lot interest-as I noted before the pieces about her have been my most viewed here at Diary of a Republican Hater this week-I can't help but digressing into some further reflections on it.
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http://diaryofarepublicanhater.blogspot.com/2011/09/alisha-smith-civil-liberties-victim.html
As you may have heard Alisha Smith was recently put on unpaid leave from her job as a lawyer in the NY Attorney General's office after it was revealed-by the NY Post, who else?-that Ms. Smith-aka Alisha Sparks-moonlights as a dominatrix. The official word from AG is that this was not about how she gets her personal pleasure but because she may have violated an AG rule that any outside employment of more than $1000 must be run by a commission first.
Sure I can see it now: Ms. Smith should have called a board meeting and asked permission to be a dominatrix. Why do I doubt, this very important rule notwithstanding, that if her outside employment was as a baby sitter or bible school teacher whether we would still be having this conversation?
Like I said I got a tremendous response from readers-there have been a lot of them-on this subject, partly no doubt because "sex sells." I think it also is an issue that touches on many other issues, like civil rights, civil liberties, sexuality, and women's sexuality. At this point perhaps you can now safely discriminate against only the kinky with the passage of gay marriage in NY and the recongnition of the rights of LGBT people. As I have said, it is interesting that evidently both Alisha Smith(Sparks) and her friend Edyth Maa-Jade Vixen-derive their own personal pleasure from this-generally it is assumed that women do this for economic need or maybe their man is into this but it is assumed that they themselves don't derive personal pleasure from being sexually dominating, even if their male partner does from being sexually dominated. If this were true it leaves the sadomasochistic relationship in the quintessential Zizekean mode of failure, yet another instance of "there is no Sexual Relationship" , "Woman does not exist" and "there is no Big Other."
As Ms. Smith made just under $80,000 per year as a lawyer for the NY AG presumably she didn't need the money. It should be noted that she certainly earned the money as she had been praised by current NY Gov .-and then NY AG-Andrew Cuomo for her work in successfully prosecuting Bank of America and other such entities and securing significant fines from them. While the tendency is to be struck by the contrast like the NY Post does, "Alisha Smith, 36, who dresses demurely as a buttoned-down prosecutor, turns up the heat when she becomes perky persecutor "Alisha Spark" a nom de dom she uses when she performs at S&M events for pay, according to a fetish source." [NY Post Saturday, September 17, 2011 pg. 7].
To my mind, there's no contradiction or contrast between her day job as a prosecutor in the NY Attorney General's office and her night job as a dominatrix; to the contrary you could argue that she's consistent as she is dominating in both roles. I mean a prosecutor is a certain kind of persecutor certainly she successfully "persecuted" BOA.
Her friend Edythe Maa-aka Jade Vixen- has had plenty of controversy of her own. On August 18, she found her 49-year-old boyfriend, engineer Peter Stelzenmuller dead in the attic of their Pennsylvania home. While the police are clear that there is no evidence to support foul play-there were no bruises, etc.-the fact that she is a dominatrix who has written about among other things the joys of oxygen deprivation, etc. does leave them with some questions.
Then in 2008 Maa's then boyfriend Anthony Ottaviano, a lawyer, was shot and killed by a former client, David Krieg, who then shot and killed himself.
In talking this over with my co-host Turbo Kitty today on http://planamerica.org/index.jsp?contentPage=NewstandMediaPremiere.jsp she revealed that the most common way for asphyxiation fans to go is accidental suicide.
I opined at that point that while I believe to each his own as far as sexual tastes go maybe asphyxiation goes beyond what I might ever want to try. She then asked me a question: Am I Vanilla, Neopolitan, or Rocky Road?
She revealed that she is a Neopolitan. I admitted that my choice would have to be D as in don't know. She explained that Vanilla is vanilla sex, missionary and then prayer... Rocky Road is asphyxiation and other heavy stuff that has a high causality rate. Neopolitan means you like some light bondage and S&M, and other stuff. OK, I understood immediately: I'm Neopolitan.
Glad she explained this in case I'm ever at a cool bar I won't look stupid if some attractive stranger asks me this very question.
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